The Hippie Blog
Writings From The Author Of The Hippie Dictionary
March 14, 2024
His father killed his spirit
Arrogance and insecurity, are a tragic and volatile combination in a man
The young man struggled through his school career. It wasn’t
the academics, social life or sports that caused him grief. Good-looking,
intelligent and physically fit, he had only one problem as a child -- his own father.
The boy got nearly straight A’s, contributed to record-breaking
team sports, and was a tall and handsome lad. Yet his one disadvantage
was an insecure parent.
His father had been physically and emotionally abused by his
own father, for the sake of appearances, for the sake of winning and
achieving more than he had. The sins of the father visited upon the child.
The sins spoken of here are the ones inflicted upon the child by
the father.
No just God would blame a child for his father’s sins, but fathers
often pass their own flaws on to their own children.
Insecurity is manifested in masculine posturing. The young
man’s father “needed” him to excel in sports. Insecurity is also expressed
in the false hope that education will make you a more important
person. The young man’s father drove him to unnecessary academic
goals.
His father never asked him what he wanted. His father always
wanted for his son what he needed for himself.
The young man’s father had no friends because he was unlikable,
so he bound his children to him with fear and guilt, so he would
have someone to balance his own insecurity. What the father created was
empty, meaningless devotion. What he left behind were children who
could not stand emotionally on their own.
Those people who know the truth might think that the boy, now man, is crazy, but he is just deluded. His father's lies were like acid, etching falsehoods into him. A boy's father is his first teacher, and his mother is his first nurturer.